Congratulations my darling boy, my heart and soul, my rock and my life.
Revel in your bliss, as I revel in the honour of having held your human hand.
I’m so proud of you, my gorgeous, courageous, selfless Dazzie Pants.
You are my everything and always will be.
Biggest love imaginable,
Your girl forever,
Beck, xxx
I encourage any fws & dazza supporters reading this to post a comment in tribute to the legend that is dazza. He'll love it.
Revel in your bliss, as I revel in the honour of having held your human hand.
I’m so proud of you, my gorgeous, courageous, selfless Dazzie Pants.
You are my everything and always will be.
Biggest love imaginable,
Your girl forever,
Beck, xxx
I encourage any fws & dazza supporters reading this to post a comment in tribute to the legend that is dazza. He'll love it.
146 comments:
Hi, I am a very recent admirer of fws and everyone involved in this organisation. I only became aware of this marvellous group of people through a news article I read about the untimely death of Darren Stratti. Though I never met him, I feel great sadness by his passing as well as great respect and admiration at the way in which he lived his life. May his passion and generosity live on in those he left behind...
hey dazz,
we only hung out for a short time, but what a place to be! looking at all the work you've done, it's hard to believe less than 12 months ago we were trudging the muddy tracks of sinon looking for the perfect photo (annoying the locals somewhat!, cheers mudi for explaining!) i had heaps of fun on that trip and was looking forward to seeing your handy work when it was done, in person. i guess i will one day and your mark will made.
bec, bloody hell! i don't know what to say except, thankyou for bringing me in to FWS to be a small part of something special and having had the chance to meet daz. you were both truly inspirational and remain so. i have so many memories from that trip and i don't think they'll be fading soon (especially being crammed in the back of a dala dala with you two!!)
thanks guys, i know kesho leo will be something that will prevail and do daz proud.
lotsa love
luke aka versatile potato chef
Go Daz! What a man!
True love stories never end.
Cathy (The Fox)
Darren love you mate you are an inspiration to all who know you. I'm glad i got to be a part of your life growing up on the same street getting into trouble running a muck. ots of love to you and your family and bec. Love pat albany
Daz,
I never met you, but admire what you have done and all you have stood for.
You have made your mark on the world, and I feel you forever in my heart.
My love to Bec,
Pam Cork
Darren, I will never forget our school years together, when Beck, Julie, Sonia, Belinda, Mick, Chris and everyone else who used to play on the grass after school. The love notes you passed to Beck in Miss Crawfords class. You were one of the fastest runners we could never catch you in kiss and catch, unless you wanted to be caught!
I was looking forward to you and Beck coming home so we could catch up. You should be proud of your achievements in this lifetime. Of all the people I have known, you are one of the gentle, amazing men I had the priviledge of meeting.
Beck.... I have nothing I can say that can be comforting, except I will try to help you fundraise and do what ever I can do for FWS.
the work you guys do is so inspiring and selfless. Love you heaps. Gabs xxxx
Well said Beck... thanks for the pics. Nice to see his face again. Am almost home... we missed the bloody flight in Perth (Doh!). See you soon... H xxxx
Numbers say so much....
15 - at least the number of Nanna cakes we shared
6 - Hump nights where stories of days were told over so much food (consumed in equal parts by Daz and Nick)
1 - Australia Day, Advent, wedding celebrations set to the tune of "We built this city"
5 - your love and her library
8 - the party animal meets the fearless warrior
infinte - memories, love, thanks and journeys that will be revisited time and time again when I think of 2007/8.
Love and light
Rachel
I am so sorry to hear of the untimely death of Darren. I have been following the work of FWS for a while now and am truly inspired at what a difference a person can make. Rebecka, you and Darren's family are in my thoughts and prayers.May your generosity and fierce determination to ensure a safe environment for the women and children in Tanzania continue. Kind Regards Helen Smith (Grafton Australia)
To a friend with passion who loved to laugh and spend quality time with the woman of his dreams... you will not be forgotten. You gave more than you ever expected in return and your love of life and adventure will see those who love you through this challenge of your sudden departure to another oasis. Love Sharon
Such a wonderful couple, doing such wonderful things.
Darren such a special and honourable man, I am blessed to have met you, even if it was for a short moment in our lives here on this earth. You should feel very proud of what you have created as well as the lovely lady you choose to love while on this earth. I am privilaged to have been involved with FWS.
Till we may meet again.
Emma
xxx
Such a wonderful couple, doing such wonderful things.
Darren,a special and honourable man, i am blessed to have met you. Be proud of what you have created, as well as the lovely lady you chose to love while here on this earth. I am privileged to have been involved with FWS.
Till will meet again.
Emma
xxx
Such a wonderful couple, doing such wonderful things.
Darren,a special and honourable man, i am blessed to have met you. Be proud of what you have created, as well as the lovely lady you chose to love while here on this earth. I am privileged to have been involved with FWS.
Till will meet again.
Emma
xxx
Such a wonderful couple, doing such wonderful things.
Darren,a special and honourable man, i am blessed to have met you. Be proud of what you have created, as well as the lovely lady you chose to love while here on this earth. I am privileged to have been involved with FWS.
Till will meet again.
Emma
xxx
Hey Daz,
I may have only known you for two weeks, however, be it two days, two weeks, two years, or two decades you have an instant affinity with all that you meet.
I'm pround of what you built with your hands
A legacy that will nourish a culture from other lands
What a man, what a wonderful human, a soul that will never leave Beck's hands
Poli sana Beck. I have never admired love until I saw you two together you are both such understated incredible,passionate and humble leaders.
I have never met, a finer man.
jenna
(hope you get a laugh at my daggy attempt at a poem daz)
Darren was a most charismatic and powerful person. He was also multi-talented, imaginative and incredibly hardworking. The few months we worked with Darren earlier this year will never be forgotten. The people of Sinon will be decimated. No one was more highly respected. He had three loves in his life: Beck, his family and the people of Tanzania. He made it very clear to us that he felt that he had EVERYTHING!
-Clare and Warren Hopley
Dear Beck, In memory of Dazza, We met briefly, once at 'Colours of Africa' book launch, and again outside your home. The Love of Life you both had, your passion for each other and your project, was a light in the world. Darrens' presence is as real just as his work stands in Kesha Leo. We are with you at this time.
With Love, Judy and Will Ray, Sydney.
Beck,
Words cannot express the shock and emptiness we felt when we found out about Daz. Such an event is a terrible blow to you, Daz' family and fws. But great people leave their mark and inspire others to greatness - Daz was one of those people and you and fws will draw on his strength and memory and soar ever higher.
Our love goes out to you and Daz' family at this time and Kesho Leo will stand as his monument for many years to come.
Ray and Angela.
Dearest Rebecca , I am thinking of you and wish you strength at this terrible time, it is unbelievable to imagine Darren gone,what a beautiful man, just thinking of you both the other day, waiting for you guys to spend time in Rivertrees ....... Please come and stay when you need peace and the sound of water. I am so sorry,
Martina and the entire team of Rivertrees , Tanzania
G’day FWS
I am also a recent supporter of FWS, and learned of your organisation only after reading of Darren’s death. My heart goes out to the FWS team and Darren’s family. I wish you all the best for the future.
We in Nairobi were all shocked at hearing of the death of Darren. His generosity and love for life and Africa will live on in the hopes and aspirations and determination of all other fws colleagues. Beck, our deepest feelings of solidarity in your huge loss. From all the Christian Brothers in Nairobi
So many congratulations are due to you, Darren and to all the other amazing people involved in fws. I have followed, with huge admiration, the dream of Kesho Leo become a reality through the hard work, expertise and committed team work of you all.
My thoughts and prayers are with your fine sons, your darling Beck, all of your family and many friends. Your courage and spirit will inspire and console them and any who, like me, never had the privilege of meeting you. Bless you.
What a great bloke, and I'm sorry I didn't get to meet him. His family have also been very positive and said he died doing what he loved - what a lovely way for his family and friends to honour him, which is what you and fws are doing also. This must be the toughest time in your life, but know that there are many many people out there who will help you when you stumble with your grief, and that his memory won't ever be forgotten. What you guys are doing out there is incredible, and I look forward to meeting you and telling you in person.
The good..the truly good, remain our hearts forever. The brave..the truly brave, remain in our minds forever and the courageous lovers of people and life...well heck - their immortal..
How ironic that I hear about Darren's untimely death via the media yet something good comes because I am inspired to contribute to your cause. I love the idea of an organisation that is small and can be followed without massive beaurocracy. It must be such a hard time for those close to him. My love and support goes out to you all especially Rebecca. Jonathan Hardy www.englishmastery.com.au
As a recent FFF contributor I was deeply saddened to hear of Darren's tragic death. What a damnable waste of a brilliant life so well lived. FWS achievements will be his great legacy, and one Bec will be very proud of. Hope to be able to visit the village one day. Ann Leith
Rebecka, you have been in our thoughts day and night. The death of Darren leaves us with an aching sadness for you as we knew he was the love of your life. His legacy, however, is remarkable given that fws has now gained the attention of the mainstream media. He has died for a higher cause. As 'swedish girls', we loved him, too, and we are so grateful for the happy times we shared with you both. Love, Ro xxx
Darren, I first heard about you when I was 12, I met you only once when I was 36. You were worth every minute of the wait.
Beck, anything in the world I can do? - I'll be there
all my love
white lion
I'll miss you Daz. So will little Juma in the morning.
I'll take care of the chainsaw.
see you mate.
I'm still so shocked and saddened, so my words might not be as poetic as those said above.
My thoughts are with Beck & the Stratti's who have proven to be so strong in this hard time. It is most evident that he loved his partner, his boys, brothers, family & friends so much.
I greatly admire the work that Darren, Beck & the FWS have done & will continue. Not many people can say they have lived & worked in dedication to improve the lives of others in such a wonderful way. I am inspired to help in every way I can from my laptop in Sydney, to help promote your cause.
Love Natasha
To my brother-in-law Darren,
One of my first memories of you came back to me when I read all these messages of admiration and love: driving to the beach 14 1/2 years ago in Daniel's Holden HZ ute, windows down, hot breeze blasting us, backs sticking to the vinyl seats, squished between you and Daniel; I was reading aloud to you both from one of my favourite books, "The Tao of Pooh". I had found a new kindred spirit.
Knowing you was a privilege, Darren - one that, I'm sad to say, I took for granted while you were here. When you went to Tanzania I missed you, but knew you would be home in a year or so. Now I don't know how long I'll have to wait to see you again.
I know that you have gone on to bigger and better things, and that brings me solace, but Pearl Jam concerts will not be the same without you.
Meg.
To Rebecka,
I can find no fitting words. I know that Darren thought you were the most beautiful woman in the world. People live many lives searching for the love you found.
I hope Darren's strength has been, and continues to be, with you. See you soon.
Meg.
I have managed to help the brilliant FWS a little bit with fundraising in the past, and am even more determind to do so in the future, now after this horrible accident. My heart goes out to Rebecka and all the team. Hattie the caterer
Daz, my volunteer months at fws, Arushu this year was life changing for me. I am so proud that 'Aussies for Orphans' can assist with funding and is now part of the fws project.We are committed to doing all we can to make your and everyone else involved with the projects dreams, a reality.
From NuNu,thanks so much for:
*Helping me across the flooded mferengi after falling in yourself.
*Encouraging me to sing my little lungs out and telling me how great I sounded (I have listened to 'big yellow taxi' & 'Aint no sunshine' numerous times since the news)
*Having numerous philisophical discussions about my part in the world and the path I/we have chosen.
*Eating so heartily (and Nick) at my 'Hump dinners'where every recipe was not quite as it would have been in Aus but yum all the same.
*For teasing me in good humour,making me laugh (even when I didnt want to)and sending me off to bed with those chosen words *** that have now become part of fws folklore.
For these things and sooooo much more I will miss you. Much love from NuNu (luv ya Bek)..
To the entire fws team (especially Rebecka), and to Darren's family and friends: I wish I could have had the opportunity to meet Darren, and I am so sorry for your loss. I have heard the most amazing things about him from my Mum, and I only wish I was so lucky to have hung out with him at Kesho Leo like her.
I now think of Kesho Leo Village like Disneyland - people think Walt Disney never got to see the finished Disneyland, but he saw it in his mind from the very beginning. Its the same with Darren - and may he be watching over Kesho Leo and you all for now and forever.
Courtney Goes
Handprints for Humanity
xxxx
What an absolutely amazing achievement to live so fully in such a short time. From one Moorebank family to another, I am sickened by what has happenend but inspired by what can be achieved when people follow their hearts and create something beautiful for others. Wow...what a life to aspire to. Prayers and thoughts to you all from Deb and the Napier clan xo
One of the true measures of a person's life is the ways that they influence others and the legacy that they leave behind them......
What a privilege it has been to have to known you, Darren,..... and to read about your experiences with him, Rebecka.
You will always be remembered.
May your passions and drive live on.
Love Always
David, Kirstine, Chloe ,Bethany and Emily
What an amazing job you are all doing! The work that you all do and the sacrifices that come with such work, stand as an example to us all. I am sorry to hear of the loss of Darren Stratti. My thoughts are with you all - family, friends and the many whose life Darren touched.
Daz, your generous heart, beautiful nature and love for Beck are an inspiration - let alone your selfless (and tireless) work for Kesho Leo. It looks truly amazing and will be a great testament to your life. And thanks again for your CD - I'm honoured to have a copy.
Beck, my amazing friend, Mot and I send our hearts out to you. If there's anything I can do to help you or fws (am up for the newsletter again if you want me), just say the word. xx scobes
Although we did not know you we are big supporters of your cause and the work you have done. Our heart goes out to Beck and we hope you Darren are in a wonderful and happy place.
If only more people could be like Darren. We all dream of doing something to help others, but few actually do. Thoughts go to his family and friends.
If only more people could be like Darren. We all dream of doing something to help others, but few actually do. Thoughts go to his family and friends.
Although I do not know you personally, I have a great deal of respect for the friend of yours who has alerted me to the tragedy of Darren's loss and the fantastic work of fws. May his legacy live on.
dear rebecka
we have only meet darren thru his wonderful son daniel he was a truley great dad to his boys. we are sorry for your loss in such a tragic way.we are thinking of you and the rest of the stratti family at this time and are here for robbie and dan.We have never met you but have herd a lot about you from the boys from there trips to africa you truley are a wonderful person.with love zachary kelly and family sydney (dans best mate)
Hi Rebekah,
i'm sorry it has taken such heartbreaking news to make me stop a moment and salute you and the work your team have done. I promise the intention has been there. I know we only worked together very fleetingly, but you made a huge imprint in my mind. It has been a really really long time. I'm sorry i have been so horrible and not kept in touch. I'm praying for you and for Darren. He sounded like an amazing, honourable bloke. Thinking of you! Hope our paths cross again one day soon,
Clarissa Scotto
xxxxxx
Hi Rebecca,
My sincerest condolences for your recent loss. I was shocked to hear of the news just recently. I met Darren only briefly when he came with you to the dental practice in Castle Hill. His caring nature and supportive character were evidenced then and the love you guys had for each other was powerful. Although I did not know him, I pray that his efforts and those he has left behind will NEVER forget him. May a small part of his care, courage and love live on in all those he has come into contact with. Love and best wishes. Keep strong. Love, Fred.
I can’t begin to explain the sadness I felt when I heard the news. I still don’t understand how such a thing can happen to a not only someone who was putting so much goodness back into this world, but to a couple that were so unbelievably in love. Darren was such a lovely guy, he embraced life to the fullest, he didn’t have a mean bone in his body and most importantly, he made my good friend Beck, the happiest girl in the whole world. Thanks for everything Darren.
Sascha
Dear Rebecka,
Deepest sympathy on your never to be forgotten loss. My heart bleeds for you.
Michael.
I thought I was having a particularly bad day today until I opened my email to the news of Darren's tragic death. I cried & told myself that I should remember always why I and others help physically & financially to support the volunteers of FWS & more importantly the children who need this important project. We are so fortunate to live in Australia & I'm so proud that fellow Aussies are helping out where it is needed most. I will continue to contribute to support a house Mama so that they can help raise a future generation. I send my deepest sympathy to Rebeka, Darrens family & to those who knew him. I wish you all safe return to Oz & an even safer trip back to Africa. Regards Olga Bath, Biloela.
Beck, my thoughts and heart are with you. What you have both achieved is incredible. His life has touched so many people. Lotsa lotsa love from Renee, Michelle and Linc
I did`t ever get to meet Darren , as im only new to FWS after attending a recent funraiser in Brisbane , but i do remember hearing of his passing on ABC radio and being greatly effected.
I now realise what a huge loss this has been , Bec i can only image how shattered your heart must be , the Love and passion for eachother and life that you shared is amazing.
Inspite of your tradgey i am sure that you must be incredibly proud of who Darren is , the world is a better place because of him.
I deeply feel for you and all of the people who Love him.
I need to tell you that learning about his life has inspired me to look for deeper meaning , give more and be a better person.
I will honour his memory.
Bec’, Darren’s family and friends and FWS
I had just picked up some tape measures, pencils and other items Daz’ wanted and was heading back to my office to collect the drawings when I got the news. In 30hours time Daz’ was going to be picking me up at Kilimanjaro airport where he was going to be waiting for me in the limo’(ute).
When I joined FWS as the volunteer architect I really didn’t know what I was getting into. The whole concept of the FWS was highly attractive and what they wanted to achieve - not just in terms of buildings - was ambitious to say the least, and one I approached with measured enthusiasm. The potential for failure between the stages of idea to execution would be very high unless there were people involved who possessed exceptional skills and character. Over the last 18 months I now know what I’m involved in- and just how rewarding it is, and tragically within this short timeframe I also know a little more about one the most remarkable people I have had the privilege to know and work with.
Whilst in Tanzania last year I showed Beck’ and Daz’ my ideas for Kesho Leo’s buildings and from that minute onwards Darren’s enthusiasm has been inspiring. We have spent countless hours discussing and sharing ideas about the construction and detail and never once has he said “it can’t be done” – even in times when I know he was in an almost impossible predicament and where most people would have just given up. Not only has he and the other fantastic volunteers erected the first - and largest - of the three buildings (and the volunteers village and other site infrastructure), he at the same time has been generously and patiently imparting his knowledge with the indigenous workforce and teaching them skills they would never have had the opportunity to learn.
Darren was a person of exceptional character, he was talented, creative, sensitive and passionate all delivered in his own inimitable style in true Australian clarity and economy.
This is one of over a hundred emails I received from Daz’ which says a lot to me about our special relationship and this enlightening project.
G'day mate
how's it going ?
Hope you are both well and having a well needed break
Beck and I are fine and having a great time
The locals that are working with us are really spinning out now at the super-structure we are building
After we lifted the first beams the other day
they told me that I had "diamonds in my brain" to be able to think of all of this and make it work
I couldn't take all the glory so I explained to them that the Architect (who was here last yr ,some of them like the neighbour Nicko remember you) and engineer are the ones who designed it and make it work ,we are just building it off their design ,and they are the ones with the "diamonds in their heads"
Although it was still nice for them to be able to see now how it will all work and have a bit of faith in what we are doing.
When I first started working with them, 6 months ago and I was setting out all the 600 -700 -900 diameter holes for the piers , they thought I was mad
Then when I started setting out the 2 meter round holes for the tanks one of them said "they sure do build stuff different in Europe " this made me crack up but also made me realise they haven't seen anything like what we are doing and now that they have been drinking rain water at work from our volunteer hut roofs for 2 months now see the massive amount of water that these roofs will collect.
talk to you soon mate
Daz
Beck says hi
Nicko’s observation is unwittingly accurate; this is a huge team effort. I might have provided the thinking but in my mind Daz’ possesses the diamonds. His tireless dedication and exceptional talents are what “make it work”.
Finally, Darren on several occasions stated in his emails “I’m stoked to be working with you” No mate the privilege is all mine and our work together hasn’t finished.
To Beck’, Darren’s family and his many friends my sincere condolences, I can’t even begin to contemplate the grief and sorrow you must be experiencing.
Rob Watson (RND)
Darren,
Your smile & laugh I'll remember always. Your love for Beck & life so very inspirational. You will be in my heart always.
Beck,
I can't find the words to describe the the pain I am feeling for you right now. Please know you are in my thoughts & I will be here for you always....
Love you both
Ange x
Darren,
Although we hadn't been in touch for a number of years I have been following & admiring the work you & Bec have been doing. I didn't realise until we lost you this week what a large part of my life you were for the first 20 years. Whether it be at my debutante, your wedding, the birth of Robert, going to the beach at 3am or just talking for hours on the phone(which drove our mothers crazy)you were always such a great guy!
Bec, when I saw the photo of you guys in the magazine with the sunday paper & looked up the fws website, you 2 are such a perfect fit & to top it off with the fabulous work you do. My love and thoughts are with you Bec & the Strattis during this awful time. Love Julie Sainsbury (Brackenridge)
Rebecka, my heart is with you and if I could send comfort in any way that might lighten your loss I would. But you just might have to look up a lot and 'see' him there. I hope he spooks you in the nicest possible way and you feel him all around. Much love
To dear Beck, I have cried from the moment I heard the news about Darren and what you have been through. I don't know what to say except I am so proud that I actually got to meet Darren and I feel honoured that I had the opportunity to cook him a meal. After all those tormented years we spent searching for the right boy it was inspirational to see you two together. I am in awe of the work you have both been doing and the way you are living your life. I know he will be in your heart forever. Please let me know if there is anything I can do, it is a testiment to you to see what amazing friends and support you have. I love you. Peta x
Dearest Lobby Lobsta,
"A thing of beauty is a joy forever. Its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness but still will keep a bower quiet for us, and a sleep full of sweet dreams and quiet breathing. Therefore, on every morrow are we wreathing a flowery band to bind us to the earth" Keats
I am so incredibly sorry to hear about Darren's death and your awful ordeal. I hope that memories of your Dazza and the wonderful things you have accomplished together provide some kind of comfort at this devastating time. I can't begin to imagine what you both went through on that night or what you are going through now, having lost your soulmate.
My family and I send you all our loving and healing thoughts. I never knew Darren but it is clear from what you have said and what I have read about him that he had your same beauty of soul and heart. I wish that there was something I could do to help take away some of your pain. I have often, while reading your blog, shown my three children pics from your website and used it as an example of how one person, two or more people can come together to change a corner of the world and give to others (and receieve from others too) if their heart is in the right place. What you two have created together is incredibly special and the fulfilment of that dream will alter the course of hundreds of lives for the better and forever - an extraordinary and lasting legacy for Darren and for you. I'm sure that he is watching over you now, bathing you in his loving light and feeling incredibly blessed that you met and shared the time that you had together.
Love from the very top and bottom and middle of my heart
Stephanie (Da Princess) and family
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there: I did not die.
fws is another selfless group of people trying to make a difference to those who have little. my sincerest sympathy to all at fws and darren's family and his partner rebecka. i do not know any of the members of fws personally, however found you when searching for an organisation similar to one that we have now formed 'Manos' - set up to here in perth, w.a. to help children in south america.
how priviledged we are to have souls such as darren touch our lives. i truly believe there are angels who walk among us, he sounds like one of them.
peace and love,
sharon
director
manos organisation
"One Love"the words on your trailer say it all. You were about love Darren.How privilaged I feel to have met you, to have hung on your every word as you so passionately explained your project when Anne Marie & I visited Kesho Leo in February. I even took notes!Your burning desire to share with the local Tanzanian your skills while repecting their culture all the while.Did you get the whole roof on before the big rains? You are truly an inspiration to mankind. So let mankind now follow your lead & grow this dream so big...Beck I am so sorry for your loss words are not enough.To the team at FWS may Darren's inspiration live on in all that you wonderful people are doing.We also met Darren's son Robbie experiencing by his side how much his father could give..what an enormous Legacy he leaves you. To your family my heartfelt condolences. What a guy!
Let Daz's light shine on in each of us and the paths we choose to follow and trails we blaze.
From Daz's MySpace page...
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said:
"My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
Dearest Lobby Lobsta,
"A thing of beauty is a joy forever. Its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness but still will keep a bower quiet for us, and a sleep full of sweet dreams and quiet breathing. Therefore, on every morrow are we wreathing a flowery band to bind us to the earth" Keats
I am so incredibly sorry to hear about Darren's death and your awful ordeal. I hope that memories of your Dazza and the wonderful things you have accomplished together provide some kind of comfort at this devastating time. I can't begin to imagine what you both went through on that night or what you are going through now, having lost your soulmate.
My family and I send you all our loving and healing thoughts. I never knew Darren but it is clear from what you have said and what I have read about him that he had your same beauty of soul and heart. I wish that there was something I could do to help take away some of your pain. I have often, while reading your blog, shown my three children pics from your website and used it as an example of how one person, two or more people can come together to change a corner of the world and give to others (and receieve from others too) if their heart is in the right place. What you two have created together is incredibly special and the fulfilment of that dream will alter the course of hundreds of lives for the better and forever - an extraordinary and lasting legacy for Darren and for you. I'm sure that he is watching over you now, bathing you in his loving light and feeling incredibly blessed that you met and shared the time that you had together.
Love from the very top and bottom and middle of my heart
Stephanie (Da Princess) and family
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there: I did not die.
Darren,
You are an amazing soul. Your memory will be embedded in what FWS is achieving. There are many things i wish to say, but am finding it hard to place my thoughts into words.
You achieved much of what others can only dream.
I am honored to have known you.
Hi guys,
I only met you both for a short time whilst we were in Arusha on Immersion. When I found out about the news I was deeply shocked and saddened. Pole sana to Dazza's family and friends and especially to Beck. You guys were such an inspiration to us and we often discussed the amazing work you were doing. In tribute to Daz and the fws gang, I will continue to spread the good news of your work in Arusha.
You are in my thoughts. Karlien
A HERO is how I would describe Darren, only meeting Darren briefly, but hearing stories of him through family and friends who loved him, it is not hard to understand how wonderful he was and in memory still is. A true man would happily give his life to protect the ones around him, Darren did that. I will think of Darren as a hero that I had the priviledge and honour of meeting. To Rebecka, Ange and I will do anything to help you get through this difficult time. love Anthony
Rebecka, my thoughts are with you and you have my deepest sympathy. Matthias
Darren,
Your work has touched so many people! You nourish the world with your kindness and compassion, your humour, and your extraordinary love for those around you.
...You continue, as always, to give us inspiration to live passionately and dream big dreams.
To Beck and the Stratti family,
...I don’t know what words I can leave here that might take even a little of your pain and carry it away. My thoughts are with with you.
With deepest regards,
Janelle
Darren,
Your work has touched so many people! You nourish the world with your kindness and compassion, your humour, and your extraordinary love for those around you.
...You continue, as always, to give us inspiration to live passionately and dream big dreams.
To Beck and the Stratti family,
...I don’t know what words I can leave here that might take even a little of your pain and carry it away. My thoughts are with with you.
With deepest regards,
Janelle
I worked with Rebecka (seems like a lifetime ago) - My heart is broken for you Rebecka... I dont know what to say... except that I am sure he is with you still watching over you everyday. Take care continue your inspirational journey you are amazing truly amazing.
Love Shazza (Sharon Metzl) - freelance graphic designer TP... xxxxxxxx
Deep regrets to Darren's friends and family from all at planet wheeler foundation. Its the spirit and passion of people like Darren which make this world a better place, and which makes community groups like fws so special.
Daz mate,
I still can't quite believe I am writing this...
What an unbelievable privilege it has been to have spent the last 3 months with you, beck and the fws gang.
I am grateful and blessed to have known you daz; to have lived, worked and laughed with you. Such a beautiful and special energy and absolutely TOPS bloke!
Aside from helping to build the most 'good looking' livestock sheds in Arusha with you, I spent my days on the site trying to make you laugh, because mate, your smile and laugh were worth a million!
Love you Daz. Thanks for the chats over a beer (Eagle for you, Tusker for me!), for the laughs (with me? At me? ha ha), for sifting through my 'non stories' for a point to the story! For sharing your expansive music collection - your excitement and passion was contagious - and for your ongoing patience, encouragement and warmth. I'll miss you.
Beck and Robbie. I know 'sorry' doesn't cut it. Love you and thinking of you kids.
Love your little mate, Liz xx
I mostly knew Darren before the whole wonderful fws adventure began, and worked with him producing his songs. Darren was an exceptional musician and songwriter, passionately interested in people, and what makes us all tick. I will always treasure our many "deep and meaningful" conversations about life, the universe and everything. To all of you who have only just heard about Darren, make no mistake, he was (is) the real deal. Kind, generous, passionate, eternally interested and switched on by life. I grieve for Beck and for the Strattis. Beck, I only met you once (at the climate change walk), but Darren talked about you endlessly. You know this, but I think it bears repeating - he loved you with all his heart. You were his lighthouse and his rock. I simply can't believe he's gone. I've been in shock all week. Susan and I send you all our love. As many others have said, Darren's name will live on.
Oh Rebecka! It's impossible to put into words how sad we all are about your wonderful Dazza, knowing that he brought you so much happiness as well as contributing so greatly to fws. We know your Dazza died in a place he loved, with a woman he loved and certainly not in vain. You're truly amazing and we know you will continue the great work you and Dazza started, and find happiness again. All our love, Sarah and the Swedish gals.
beck, our hearts go out to you and daz's family. words can't describe the sadness we feel. but how lucky you were to have found each other and you will both continue to be an inspiration for us and for everyone you meet.
may you and fws keep up with the amazing work
lots of love chris and dieu
Hey Darren,
Mate we used to train pretty hard and share plenty of sweat together at Kung Fu (if you couldn’t wring a litre out of your t-shirt by the end of the night you just weren’t having a dig), but my most cherished memories of you are when we double teamed as instructors and I got to see you doing great things for our blue belts class. I like to think that I was a pretty good instructor but you always inspired me to be a better one – if I wasn’t putting in 100% of the time it would have been painfully obvious to everyone, ‘cos you were always full-on, every night.
I’m so proud to have known you and I will carry your spirit with me for the rest of my life.
Cheers mate, see you down the track
pj
Hi Beck,
We haven’t met but I wanted to let you know that you are an incredible lady and what you said at Darren’s service was wonderful.
I don’t have the words to express my admiration for your strength today, and I am in awe of your ability to convey to your love for my mate and the life that you two shared so briefly.
I’m happy to know that the beliefs Darren shared with you are helping you through this terrible time. Knowing this stuff might not ease the pain (it never has with me) but I sense that you have at least a handle on “why” this could happen, and that helps.
I saw today a woman who could laugh while recalling a memory of her soul-mate and make everyone in that church laugh with her. You made me wish that I had brought along all of my other mates (the ones who have never met Darren) so that they could have seen and felt something of the beauty of his life, his family and his partner.
I'm just one of many many people sending you love and wishing you well, but as the Zulu say "sadness has it's season and will pass".
pj :)
Oh Beck, I grieve for you so much. You are the most amazing, raw, wonderful person and, though I never met him, it sounds like you'd met your match. Oh Beck, my heart bleeds for you and for Darrens family. Only the good die young... I can hardly type through the tears for the pain you must all be feeling.
All my love to you all,
Jo Grainger
Hello Beck, I am very saddened at the loss your loss of Darren, a true love story ending in tragady.
He sounded like the bravest of the brave, and a man who could only teach good thing and inspire people.
Your words which I can only read have touched my heart, and a I wish you all the strength in the world to get through this, and I know you will, just believe that Darren is watching you like the true Soul mate that he is...
All the best.. DG
To Beck, the Delforce, and the Stratti families, from one Joey's kid to you all, my thoughts are with you in this time of sadness.
Your story perfectly illustrates how from small things, big things grow. The love started by two seven year olds has created amazing things, and will continue to do so, I am sure.
Beck, you are an inspirational lady, and I wish you only the best of everything in the future. If we can all strive to be even just half of what you are, the world will be an amazing place.....
Beck,
I haven't seen you since the old days at Cleo, and I'm sorry it took such a sad occasion for me to be in touch. I'm so deeply sorry to hear of your loss, but also profoundly proud of all that both you and Darren achieved with your incredible vision in Tanzania.
My sincere condolences also to the Stratti family.
I really hope our paths will cross again one day, as I'd love to hear all about your incredible journey since those days of writing about 'How To Lose a Dress Size Before Saturday' and other equally ridiculous stories!
Take care,
Lisa Reynolds
Dear Beck,
We are so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of Dazz. You guys are an inspiration for following your dreams and selflessly helping others. May your dreams live on in his spirit. Love, Dagmar & Rodney (Melbourne)
Dear Rebecka
I cant imagine the sadness in the your heart and hearts of Darren's two boys because I find it so, so sad. I have some understanding of the risks you people take on a daily basis in your desire to help strangers.
People like Darren deserve to be protected from the viciousness of the world. We have soldiers to handle the animosity between people and they know - and probably - like the dangers of dealing with "the enemy". Aid workers are the very opposite. They go out to help people improve their lives with optimism and a generous heart - and no thought of the need for guns or killing. They are making friends and representing their country and colleagues in a selfless manner.
To lose a person who has such dedication to the welfare of the less fortunate is an absolute disaster. To suffer the loss of a partner, a father or a son is an indescribable tragedy.
My most sincere wish is that Darren's contribution and ultimate sacrifice will be publicly acknowledged by our leaders - humanitarian and political leaders. No less a recognition than that afforded to soldiers who are killed in action. Public acclamation would go some way to encourage others to step forward and continue the task which Darren started.
Darren,
I always thought that I knew what an angel would look like. But you were big and strong and somewhat hairy. How wrong was I!
I promise that I will do all that I can to help Kesho Leo be the place that you imagined it to be.
Kwaheri rafiki.
Hi, My partner Rowan and I are also fairly recent 'additions' to the fws admiration team. We are booked to come over next June to work with you on the Kesho Leo Project. We are so so sorry, hearing the news about Darren was just so awful. Although I never met Darren, I can see from all the comments and photos, that he was an inspirational, one in a million kind of a guy, who gave so much to other people.
I hope that your amazing work continues in Darren's honour. It's a truly incredible thing you are doing, and I am just sorry the desperation of group of people could, in one awful event, cause such pain and suffering.
Our thoughts are with you Beck and all the FWS team,
Vanessa and Rowan
To Beck and the Stratti Family, after attending Darrens service on Thursday, I feel I now know Darren so well and truly believe in true love and soulmates. Hearing about Darren and you has made me a more understanding and caring person.
Thinking of you all always
Diana Laguzza and family xoxoxo
(An email from an Australian living in Tanzania, to her friends - posted by Beck)
Dear All,
Most of you probably heard about the Aussie volunteer who was tragically killed over here a week ago. I was fortunate enough to have met both Darren and Rebecka out at their project just before I left for Egypt.
Their project is probably like half and hour from our place on a good day.The day we went wasn't a good day and I can only say I was thankful I had arranged for Rebecka to meet us on our way there. The road to the project that day was just one slippery mud quarry and I must give credit to Rebecka, as Dan who was with me said on the way home I think we would have just turned around and gone home had we had to drive any further.
The foodwatershelter project these young Australians have set up is an amazing project, I raved on so much about it to Father John and F Mike that when Darren was killed F John immediately put two and two together and sent me a text in Kenya to tell me of the tragedy. So many projects are set up here by foreigners who believe they are doing good and in most cases they are, but sadly once they set them up and when they are still in their teething stage they turn them over to the nationals and just expect them to survive which just doesn't work.
Darren and Rebecka have thoroughly researched this project and realise they would probably have to put 10 years into the running of it before the community they have established in feel confident enough to take over the management of it.
When Dan and I arrived at the project Darren was hard at building, but took time out and sauntered over in true Aussie style and explain to us all about the design of the building, which is great environmental building (check out the foodwatershelter web site it will explain more).
I guess one of the most outstanding things to me that day was the great enthusiasm Darren,Rebecka and another young Aussie showed. Their enthusiasm was hard not to become part of, they were just so full of hope determination and pride.
As an Aussie I can say I'm glad I met this young couple of Aussie's if only briefly,they are doing our country proud and I only wish more young Aussie would follow their footsteps. If anybody really wants to help a project in AFRICA then here's one I think is well worth while, please check out their web site.
Darren may be gone but his spirit will live on in Tanzania for ever, he has touched the lives of many.
Thought I'd just share this with you all. Some times you meet people and they don't make an impact on you but Rebecka and Darren did.
Dearest Becky, I'm so sorry to hear about Darren. You were such a wonderful couple and team and an inspiration to everyone who met ye and saw the fantastic work in Sinon. You left us in awe and with the compulsion to tell everyone about the fantastic project. I really don't know what to say, our thoughts and prayers are with you and all at FWS. Love Julianne and Kieran Ireland
Dear Beck,
I've watched in awe as you've lived your dream and built them for others. I'm so sorry that you've lost Dazz but know that your strength, humour and great love will see your shared dream realised. Here to help in any way I can.
Love Greenie x
Wow Rebecka,
I was just today made aware of your great work, and your tremendous loss. I always knew you were destined to achieve extraordinary things and I hope completion of the village will stand as an unending tribute to Darren. The number of lives that your combined efforts will touch - and improve - is hopefully some comfort to you.
Each child that benefits from the great work of fws benfits their children, and their children, and their children. Many who live longer lives do not achieve half as much as Darren has in such a short time.
Love and best wishes, Fiona Byrne
i ask my self why do the good die young.i am from ballarat and met darren and his family through people i was living with ( shirly @ brian mullins) who i was in foster care with. as a kid i felt re jected by other kids being in foster care. But darren seen past that and treated me as a mate ..... thank you..... I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU MATE .
Darren was one of the most beautiful kids I have ever met; & to me he'll always be a kid (haven't seen him in years ~now my misfortune)
Through leaky eyes, I KEEP askin' WHY??
Why didn't U hide under the bed too, Daz???
Maybe U were just too strong to be intimidated; I should have taught U to run, instead of to drive a car!!!!
Words cant explain what I am feeling however am so moved by the work and love Beck and Darren have. Its a true story: It has been a pleasure knowing both Beck and Darren although its been many years. It definately made me realise life is precious and every moment should be valued.. Beck my thoughts are with you.
Sonia (old school friend)
Hi Rebecka and Darren, I love how you inspired the best in Darren and he in you. You encouraged the diamond in him to glow bright and strong. His energy was a powerful force that has inspired all of us, he offered his best overcoming limatations to reach fw outcomes. Love can energise us this way as your love for each has.To know your out pouring love brings hope to a few that life at times passes over. The joy of knowing this love is a blessing to me and will remain deep in my heart for both of you and the boys. To his boys Robbie and Daniel i would like to acknowledge the love of their father as this is his gift they received daily. He gave them his unconditional love, he didn't leave it for special occassions, his boys and you Rebecka his everyday special occassion. Love to u Rebecka always Aunty Regina
Dear BEck
Frank O'shea here. I am writing from Brasil and have been kept up to date with the horror of what you have endured. Please accept all my best wishes to you at this time. I pray that you find the strength to keep going and be positive.
frank
i LOVE you mate...
i MISS you mate..
you are my best mate as well as the greatest dad in the world...
i am soooo proud of what you have accomplished in you life and im so happy i told you that when i was with you!
i loved working with you and living with you and learning from you!
we shared the fun times and the rough times but all ways made the most off it...
to everyone.. MY DAD IS THE GREATEST MAN YOU WILL EVER MEET..
im soooo pumped to get back to tanzania and finish this in your name it will be an hounour!!
im going to take the things youve taught me with me forever mate!!
as you would say.. "I'M LIVING IN ABUNDANCE!!!"
Love you always you thankful son Robbie Stratti
Dazzy, every day, all day, darling. xxx
Rebecka, we never meet but when we first met Darren at our home in Goulburn we know then and there that he was an extremely special man.
We were so excited to look after Gypsy for him. Knowning that this was our little way of helping out the world and your cause.
Be ever so thankful for the time you have spent with this special person in your life.
Always remember the good and the bad.
We know that Gyspy missing him greatly.
Fondest regards
Troy, Leisa, Matthew and Amy-Jane Cook
He is a one of a kind. A very compasinate person. Which there are few in the world.
God bless!
I've put this off for long enough Daz.
It's so hard to believe a month has gone by already. Every day this surreal feeling, a kind of hollowness or emptyness or something, just follows me around. I know that as time goes by it won't surround me like it does now, but I don't think I ever want it to go away. I think that's because after I think of you, when the hollowness and emptyness dissipate, I feel both strong and calm. And that's a feeling I like.
Do you remember when we first met, I'd come home from a late shift at Virgin, and you were sitting on my lounge in Nundah watching my Donnie Darko dvd. Beck had gone to bed. She was always in bed reading. Man she reads a lot! So we sat up a bit and introduced ourselves to each other through a bit of humour and a few funny stories about Beck.
I'll always remember you as one funny bugger. You are the reason why that night at the Indian Palace was so very, very, funny. For those of you who are reading this who weren't there, you need to picture Beck and Daz and a guy that thought he was funny (me), plus two Swedes (but not the Yovunk cos she'd gone to the toilet) in absolute hysterics around the table, on the footpath outside the Indian Palace in Balmain. I mean really really laughing so hard that people were thinking we must have been a bit mad. well we kind of were that night! I was laughing so hard I couldn't breathe. And now I'm thinking it wasn't the 'cowtopsy' or the 'buckehead' jokes that made that night one to remember, it was the way I remember you laughing that makes it such a special memory. Fuck me you were laughing hard! And I was laughing with you.
Daz, before I met you I didn't appreciate a lot of things. Now I do. I appreciate good music. Especially our dual love affair with John Frusciante. When I listen to 'Look On', I think of you and Beck singing it out loud but thinking the chorus said 'Be Calm' instead! Funny stuff.
I appreciate my friends now Daz.
I had a 'surprise' 40th on the weekend and even though you and Beck weren't there, it felt like you both were. And it felt like that because you've taught me to appreciate my friends. I had so many good karma type feelings on Saturday seeing people that I had no idea thought so much of me.
People that read my footy tipping email each week, people that I know through other people, and just people I work with, or am related to.
I realised that if people respect and appreciate you, you're doing good things. That's why I respect and appreciate my memories of you so much Daz.
My memories of you, and of my time with you, continue to make me into a better person. I'll always be grateful for that Daz. And I know I'm just one of many, many, people who had the honour to consider you a friend, that feel this way.
So I'm going to go and pick up the guitar now. Got some John to play!
I hope the Universe is providing!
Love from Coolio.
ps. I've seriously lost my Earl Season 2 dvd. I've looked everywhere. If you've got it, it's not funny!
Neroli Stratti said..
I am so proud to be your mother,you will live in my heart for ever my darling boy Darren. You have achieved the ultimate lesson life has for us all, to give in such a selfless way. Well done you became a great man.
Alright I've written and deleted this comment enough times, now I better post one.
Daz, all i really need to say here is THANK YOU, thank you from the bottom of my heart for being that brave, protective man that we all knew you were, never faltering under pressure. Thank you for the inspiring conversations we had after dinner, thank you for making me believe in myself and in the power of the universe, and thank you for being in death as you were in life, calming and inspiring. I know, as we all know, that I have been privileged to have known and lived with you.
Beck, these have been the most mind-boggling and eye-opening few months and an equal amount of thanks goes to you - not just for getting me addicted to Tanzania but for keeping us safe there and being so strong in the face of this disaster.
All my love, always
Laura (F1) xxx
(Rebecka posting from an email she received)
I used to work with Darren in 1995 with Hannas Civil Engineering. My deepest and sincerest condolences go out to you and your family and friends.
Darren was such a cool and free spirited person. Im in shock and very sad. Hearing him help you with the fantastic project you guys were working on made my heart melt and cry cos I remember him always having that look that life digging holes isn't all in life.
What a top bloke and there are others that I currently work with that also knew Darren cos he was such a good man.
I remember starting with Hannas on my first day and he once position his excavator rock hammer between his brother (Daniels) leg as he was sleeping against a tree. He then fired two blows of the hammer and I remember Daniel almost changing colour to blue….then Darren would just act cool and in this smooth tone say "get up"…
God bless you Rebecka and continue the fine work…
What an inspiration you and Darren are.
I cannot express the shock and sadness I feel about the loss of our beautiful Daz...You guys made such a big impact on my life...I will see you Bek when you get home. Anything you need just call..
Loads of love gorgeous one..
I was saddened to read about the murder of Darren Stratti.
I do a little work in Uganda and have a glimpse of how devastated you must be personally at such a loss, not to mention the effect on the entire team.
Throughout your news letters, it was apparent how special Darren was to you.
I am not of a traditional religious belief so I cannot offer any words of condolence in that sense, however, what I do know, is that all that we have is each other and while we are far from perfect, it is people like Darren who sense this. It might help us all to focus on the fact that he died helping others who truly needed some help.
I realise that it will be most difficult for fws to continue the work you have started but I trust that you find the strength to do so.
Thinking of you.
(posted by Beck - an email to Beck)
Beck, we want you to know that we will do anything in our power to help you and the team at FWS to complete the building at Kesho Leo and to support you in any way that we can.
Steve and I loved spending the short time that we did with you and Daz and the team and Steve was especially touched to recieve Daz's email when we got back.
Daz seemed to really have an amazing spiritual awareness and faith and it was very inspiring and exciting to spend time talking with him.
We have no doubt that he is still around and will be to see the fulfillment of his dream.
Bec , if you need to get out of Sydney and take some quiet time out, you are more than welcome to come up here and stay here for as long as you like.
We are praying for you and the team every day.
Love Sue and Steve
Aussies for Orphans
(an email received by Beck)
Dear all at Food Water Shelter,
It is with deep sorry that we received the news of Darren`s tragic dead.
We were pleased that he took interest in our project in Usa River.
For the rest of the Team in Sinon, please keep up the good work you are doing - in the Darren -spirit.
Sincerely,
Geert
On behalf of
Usa River Children Centre, Tanzania
NB Dont know if your are informed that all Rotarians present at the Installation Night of the incoming President and the new Board, observed one minutes silent in respect of Darren.
(an email to Beck)
Darren was the most amazing man and I feel so lucky to have met him and to have seen how much love the two of you share. The fact that the two of you have also made such a difference for so many people together is something to be so proud of. I'm so sorry that this has happened.
(an email to Beck)
I am not one to usually respond or write to a news story I see, infact most of the time I just feel sick when I read the news. But this report on Darren grabbed me and I just felt compelled to write.
There is no greater gift than to lay your life down to protect another, this tragedy is gut wrenching for all I am sure but as a result many have found out about the fantastic projects foodwatershelter are doing and for me about the existence of foodwatershelter in the first place.
My husband and I have made a committment to mission work, I am due with my 3rd child in the next week or so. Darren's instinct in this tragedy and his life in general was to put others first, this is incredibly inspiring and rather than put me off mission work it has encouraged me that only putting your whole life in to helping others is worth doing and worth living for.
I pray that God will give you the strength to grieve, then when ready, continue that which has been placed in your heart to do.
God bless
I am so sorry for your loss
(an email to Beck)
I was devastated tonight to learn of Darren's death in a burglary invasion. I can't imagine how terrified and distraught you must have been and how you are coping in the awful aftermath.
It is beyond my comprehension that this terrible act happened in the volunteer compound- in this seemingly peaceful rural community and to someone who has been so vitally involved in all aspects of this project.
He was a rock and tower of strength with boundless energy and common sense and great wisdom that everyone relied on- let alone his building skills. Add to that his keen sense of humour - I loved to hear him laugh!
His unselfish commitment for the betterment of the local villagers cannot be understated. It was obvious to me in the short time with you that Darren was loved and respected by the villagers.They will be distressed too.
I'm just so shocked by the brutality and stupidity of this cruel act.
It is a total tragedy and my heart goes out to you all. Such a tremendous loss for you, for Robbie, Daniel and Darren's family and friends - and for fws.
You have my heartfelt and deepest sympathy.
(an email to Beck)
Dear Beck,
You probably won't be checking your emails at this terrible time but I need to write to you anyway ie. if I can see through my tears. We are all so terribly devastated to hear of Darren's shocking death & can't imagine how you will ever get through this. He was such a wonderful man & we remember the great fun we had at dinner at Moivaro Lodge, Arusha & I can still see his lovely smile as I took your photo as we left you just those few weeks ago never dreaming that we would never see him again.
I will never understand why such dreadful things happen to such wonderful caring people & I just want you to know that we are thinking of you & Darren's sons and his family - and sending our love & strength to you in the hope that it will help in some small way.
(an email to Kelsey)
Dear Kelsey
I am very saddened by the tragic news about your colleague and friend Darren Stratti.
I commend his excellent services for foodwatershelter and for Tanzanian public. I am sure you all will miss him a lot.
May God almighty rest his soul in peace and give you all courage to bear this irreparable loss and also to continue and complete the task undertaken by him. I am sure that will be a great tribute to him.
Please let me know if I can be of any assistance. I am also marking a copy of our communication to our Embassy in Tokyo for their
information and with a request to take up the matter with the concerned authorities in Arusha to render all assistance and
help you.
With kind regard
Nana Laxman
Hon Consul
Consulate of Tanzania
Level 2, 222 La Trobe Street
Melbourne 3000
Australia
Tel: (61-3) 9667 0243
Fax: (61-3) 9663 2616
www.tanzaniaconsul.org
(an email to Beck)
I am sending you all my love, hugs, good thoughts and best wishes to help get you through this moment in time.
Darren was such a lovely guy and you two were such a special loving couple. I am so happy and privileged to have met and spent time, even if it was only a short period of time, with him and you both together.
Your dream and what you have created together is amazing and deserves to live on.
(an email to Beck)
I can't believe it and really don't know what to say, other than I'm so very sorry - Darren was an
absolutely amazing guy and this sort of thing just shouldn't happen to people like him. And you. It's just so wrong.
I wish I could do something to help - please please let me know if there is anything at all. I'm really worried about you and hope you're holding up alright and that you have some good people there to look after you.
(an email to Beck)
I was so sorry to hear about Darren. I remember how excited you were after your first date with him - it was wonderful to see. And I loved watching as your relationship developed during the time we worked together. I can't imagine was a difficult time this must be but my thoughts are with you, his sons and family.
(an email to Beck)
Beck,
Both Carolyn and I cannot express how sad we are for both you and FWS. We didn’t know Daz well but from our all too short meeting.
Last year we knew we’d met a kindred spirit and a great person. We looked forward to a long friendship in the future. We were doubly taken back because it is now the time when we were scheduled to be in Tanzania.
We know words help little in this situation but we hope you can find some solace in our words and know that Daz, you and the project are deeply in our thoughts and our hearts.
Hang in there
(an email to Beck)
I read about your loss and although I do not know you I felt very strongly that I just want to add my sadness and condolences for your loss of Darren.
"Out of great sorrow entire worlds can be built" (Nick Cave - Are You The One) May his passing bring about awareness and ignite the fires that need to be ignited to make the world a better place for everyone.
(an email to Beck)
I offer my sincere condolences for the death of Darren Stratti. I wanted to create a poem for you..hoping the meaning would somehow make you and his family feel better:
In Heart Lands
Grown strong by winds' fate, children skip along the corridors of life,
Seeking solace in the silence of trees.
Then, towards their homeland, where they dream of electric guitars,
And galloping fawns do roam amongst their heartplains of tomorrow.
At night, when inspiration dances seductively under the moon,
her musical litter tangled in love,
Her passions cheekily greeting each child in prayer,
May you see a playful vibrancy in the air, a mist amidst the thoughts that mingles
Your feet into the soil painted red with burgundy urgency.
May your deep soul tremble exposed, breathing
alive to his final wish-
LOVE
(an email to Beck)
For the life of me, I cannot begin to understand how this can happen to two people that are putting so much goodness back into the world.
The feelings, hurt and anger that you must be feeling now is something that I cannot even begin to imagine. I still tell everyone about your love story and how much love you had for each other. It was like you were on your honeymoon 24/7.
You’re in my thoughts dear Beck. I wish I could turn back time for you. xxxx
(an email to Beck)
I'm so terribly sorry to hear of what happened to Darren, I just found out this morning on the news. I can't imagine what you're going through at the moment. Not really good at finding the words to say to you, just that Darren was an exceptional man who will be missed by many and my thoughts are with you and other friends and family who were close to him.
I'll remember forever the good times we shared in Tanzania - playing guitar at night and getting stuck into a good days work in a foreign land and watching him lead in a way that not many can.
I know you will all have the strength to carry on and finish "Kesho Leo" with Darren in spirit.
(an email to Beck)
I don't know where to begin other than to let you know that I am thinking of you and screaming at the universe for this hideous twist of fate that has deprived you, and the world, of an amazing man.
Beck, Daz was incredible, and I know you are strong enough to live on through this.
I am sending out love and hugs and my deepest thoughts of hope for you and I have sent a little prayer to the African skies to Daz, who I know will hear it.
I am so proud to know you and be involved in FWS, and know this will continue to be the case.
All my love
(an email to Beck)
I have often, while reading your blog, shown my three children pics from your website and used it as an example of how one person or two people together can change the world and give to others if their heart is in the right place. What you two have created together is incredibly special and the legacy of that contribution will alter the course of hundreds of lives for the better - an extraordinary and lasting legacy for Darren and for you. I'm sure that he is watching over you now and feeling incredibly priveleged that you met and shared the time that you had together.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there: I did not die.
(an email to Beck)
I just wanted to say on behalf of all of us at Albert Street Productions how terribly sorry we were to hear the tragic news about Darren.
We were all absolutely shocked, and although we met very briefly, we were all very taken with the incredible work you are doing,
the help you are offering to others and the dedication and commitment to the project.
Darren was clearly passionate about his cause, giving the best of his craft and of himself while also
teaching others. We were reflecting on a conversation I had with Darren after filming when he told me how, in such a
potentially dangerous place, the local community had adopted you all at Food and water shelter, and how it was the
perfect neighbourhood watch scheme. Just tragic.
On hearing the news we offered some footage to the ABC and Seven Network in the hope that it would point
up the significance of the work you are doing while showing recent professional quality footage of Darren.
I think the ABC in particular did a lovely tribute, I hope you saw it.
Again Rebecka, I can only say how terribly sorry we all are. Our thoughts are with you.
(an email to Beck)
I wanted to say how very sad I am to hear these terrible news today. You are in my thoughts
and I wanted you to know that I will miss seeing Darren here with you, you are such an amazing
couple. His spririt is all around you ... Keep strong.
(an email to Beck)
I am so sorry to hear what has happened.
I haven’t seen you for ages but, having spent some time going through your website, I had no idea of the extent of your goals and vision and, more importantly, the way in which you both attracted people to your cause.
It’s abundantly clear that you were with a wonderful man in every sense of the word, who loved you more than anything. I cannot imagine your devastation – all I can say is that I’m thinking of you and Darren’s family very much.
All my love x
(an email to Kelsey)
To Kelsey and all fws members,
It was a very hard time for us from that night of 30th june arround 9:30 when I received a call from Rebecka that the robbers are at their house.
It was bitter when we were at Selian hospital, my friend, our relative, our brother, a hero passed away. We will miss him greatly. The villagers are still thinking of him. We are praying at the house for nine days.
(an email to Beck)
I’ve been unsure about sending you this because this must be such a trying time for you and Darren's family. But I just felt I wanted to express my deepest sympathy and condolences to you all for your loss of Darren.
I’ve been blown away by the fws story, which I’ve only fully become aware of since Darren’s death. Your commitment to, and passion for, the fws cause and each other is an inspiration and in my eyes, it’s people like you and your much loved partner who are true Australian heroes.
And it seems to me that your own personal love story is just such a beautiful illustration of how two people are sometimes simply meant to be.
You are clearly a remarkable person, and it would seem from all that has been said about him, so too was Darren.
I hope that at some level at least, you may be comforted by the knowledge that there are thousands of people out there, all around the country, just like me, who have never met you or Darren, but who have been truly touched by what you have committed your lives to. It seems it was the mysterious, wondrous ways of the universe that brought you guys back together after so many years and all of us are hoping and praying that the universe, somewhere, somehow, still has lots of promise and magic in store for you.
You said in an article you were interviewed for, that giving and helping really makes a person’s heart sing. If that is true, and I know it is, then your heart and Darren’s, must be singing the most beautiful song imaginable.
(an email to Beck)
I have been thinking of you and Daz every day since I have received
that very sad phone call that Wednesday morning. I wonder where he is
now, I wonder how you are feeling and how you are coping with the
biggest loss I can imagine. I want you to know that my thoughts and
my heart are with you, and I have been meaning to email you before,
but just wanted to give it a bit of time.
Daz's service was the most beautiful service I have ever been to, and
it kind of felt like as if Daz is still spreading his positive energy
around. Your love story is very special and I hope it can keep you
strong, because I'm sure many people do not experience that kind of
love or never find their soul mate in their whole life!! You have
found it, and I find it very inspiring...
Not sure if you know George Carlin, he wrote a little message to 'the
world' I guess, after he lost his wife. I used to love his words he
wrote, coz I found them so true, but I read them again now, and they
make less sense to me, and I thought, I hope he knows that there are
actually people out there that do not need to be reminded of all
these things he is talking about, of appreciating their love from and
to their partner every day, of caring for others, of being not
superficial but genuine... You just did!!! Maybe have a read through
his 'message', I have written it down for you below. When I read it,
I think, Beck and Daz wouldn't need to be reminded of all this, they
live far away from this superficiality. Most people think how right
George Carlin is, but you and Daz would say, give us some real news
good old George Carlin!
'The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings
but
shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend
more,
but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and
smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more
degrees
but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet
more
problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too
little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired,
read too
little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our
possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too
seldom, and
hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years
to
life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back,
but
have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered
outer
space but not inner space.
We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the
air,
but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our
prejudice.
We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less.
We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to
hold
more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate
less
and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and
small
character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the
days of
two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality,
one
night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from
cheer,
to quiet, to kill.
It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing
in the
stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a
time
when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit
delete.
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not
going
to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks
up to
you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave
your
side.
Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you because that is
the only
treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember,
to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of
all
mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep
inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for
someday
that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to
speak
and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
And always remember, Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
take
but by the moments that take our breath away.'
Please look after yourself Beck, I hope you have all the support you
need at the moment.
Stay strong, my thoughts are truly with you!!!!
Kringsy xxx
(an email to Beck)
On behalf of myself and the Committee of Friends of St Lucia please accept our sincere condolences after the tragic death of your dear Darren. I cannot even begin to imagine what you must have gone through and the suffering you are going through still.
I wish I had the ability to put into words how heartfelt sorry we are at your devastating loss.
I will always remember the time I met Darren and his father in McMoodys, he was just so enthusiastic about your project.
He looked like a kid in a lolly shop when explaining what was happening on "The Job"
Darren was an inspirational guy and I personally feel honoured to have known him and seen some of his good works. We are all worse off at his passing.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours at this very sad time.
Kind regards Pat Macpherson
Having only recently joined the FWS team with dreams of going to Arusha next year to work at Kesho Leo, I became more amazed, intrigued and drawn in the more I learnt about the project and about Beck and Darren's love story, which hands down, really blew me off my feet making me wish that one day I had a Darren on my own!
The perfect life I had drawn out in my head was the life you were living and the moment I heard the robbery I was shocked beyond belief and felt disappointed by the powers that be in this world that this could happen.
I momentarily doubted my plans for Africa, thinking why give up everything and chase for what seems to be a perfect, selfless, satisfying (yet often dangerous) life when it can be lost in a second? The thought passed and I believe that Darren was exactly where he wanted to be, doing what he loved with who he loved. I think great things in life are always on a delicate balance with pain and loss and the risk of having something so beautiful and extraordinary in your life is also the risk of losing it. His life is much greater lived and having done what he has done (which appears to have had a HUGE impact on not only his community but the African community) that not having done it and living an ordinary life.
So with a little (dissolving) hesitation, a little courage and a lot of determination I wish to be a part of this, to learn from his and Becks great example and live a life of giving. So thankyou Darren & Beck for inspiring me to do more and to do better in this world. He has inspired a nation, instilled passion into people he never met and his legacy through FWS will continue to do so for years to come.
My deepest condolences to the Stratti & Delforce families for their loss. The world is at a loss but we will learn from this and not let it be in vain.
Beck - you are an amazing woman, your strength of character, courage and determination to see this through to the end are awe inspiring and I can only hope to grow into a shadow of the amazing person you are.
LE
(an email to Beck)
I have just been surfing the net and couldn’t believe my eyes when I came across a picture of you on the fws website. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your partner, Darren. From all that I have read, he seemed like an incredible and generous man who absolutely adored you. It is so obvious from looking at all the pictures of him that he loved his job and being in Tanzania. He looks kind and caring and full of enthusiasm for his work; always smiling! Rebecka, I remember our days working together with fondness and just as I had imagined, you have now gone on to much bigger and better things, setting up an inspirational organization like fws. I know you will carry on your great work with Darren right there by your side.
(a letter to Beck)
I wanted to let you know how sad I am that Darren has left us. My three months teaching at Edmund Ric were an unforgettable experience and the people I met in the Sinon community were inspiring and brilliant to be around. The time I spent with you, Daz and the fws team really opened my eyes as to what I can do with my life and has definitely change my long-term goals. Daz was such a lovely, easy-going guy which came through in his kindness towards locals and other volunteers. I was able to make the Celebration Of Darren's Life service in Sydney and thought it was lovely. You spoke so well and I have told so many people of your beautiful love story. I know Daz's spirit will continue to inspire us all.
(an email to Beck)
I continue to be inspired by Darren, yourself and the fws team more every day and although it has taken me some time to send you this message I have been thinking about you all on a daily basis.
I was in Dili when I heard of Darren's tragic death, I felt incredibly helpless and thoughts of you all influenced my time in Timor-Leste in many ways.
The day after hearing about Darren''s death I headed into the isolated mountains; upon hearing and seeing a UN helicopter fly over head, my thoughts centred on the people of Arusha and fws.
Here I was in this potentially unstable country and there had been a tragic event in Arusha; peaceful Tanzania.
Upon returning home I spent time reading the messages on the fws website. I had only been able to access limited information on the internet in Dili.
I have so much respect for the powerful way that Darren was able to engage with people and the overwhelming sense that people felt they knew Darren, however had never actually met him. I too am one of those people, an emotion I have never previously experienced. It is a credit to Darren that he could evoke that type of emotion in people.
Although Darren will not be at kesho leo when I travel to Tanzania, I will surely be surrounded by his spirit and the knowledge of his overwhelming drive to educate, work with, respect and to protect the people. I am sure these and many more of Darrens qualities continue to provide strength for yourself and all involved with fws.
I will do all I can to help kesho leo become the place Darren and the fws team wish it to be. I feel honoured to be involved with you all at fws.
(an email to Beck)
Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss of Darren in such tragic circumstances. I know it will take time to heal after being so close and working together for a long time.
I admire your courage in planning to return to finish the wonderful work that you have started. The orphanage is looking magnificent and it will benefit so many deserving children into the future.
(an email to Kelsey)
What to say after what's happened in Arusha? I can only say that I am shocked and appalled, and immensely saddened for all of you, but especially for Rebecka and Darren's family.
The last time I was in Arusha, in early May, I had a meal with Rebecka and Darren and all the fws gang, plus my brother Peter and some of the Edmund Rice volunteers. There was a great spirit there, and it was clear how committed Darren was to the whole thing. There's a terrible irony in him losing his life in this senseless way, as he was trying to share life with others.
I was very happy to read in your media statement that the project will go ahead in his honour. It would be understandable if feelings were running another way altogether.
Many of us [Christian Brothers, Nairobi], are with you in your grief and very much thinking and praying with you through this hard time.
(an email to fws)
On behalf of Rotary Club of Arusha, I am sending our sincere condolences to the team at foodwatershelter and the family of Darren.
I remember Darren when you come to our club to present your project of rain-water harvesting. In that short presentation, I was able to see a lot of potential in this young man. It is a sad and unfortunate that his life had to be cut short at such a young age. May the Lord be with you and his family at this trying time.
Godfrey Chamba
President
Rotary Club of Arusha
(an email to fws)
I met Darren only once - at a fundraising evening - but what an impression he made on me.
He was so passionate about what he was doing and a true inspirtation for me, the 20 minutes I spent in his company. My heartfelt thoughts go out to everyone who knew him.
(an email to fws)
My partner and I can't tell you how saddened we were to here the terrible news.
We had dinner with Beck and Darren and visited Kesho Leo in March...and just can't believe this has happened.
Darren was so happy to be making a difference and worked so hard to build this dream. He will be missed by us all.
(an email to fws)
I hope you are all doing okay. I think it's beautiful that Daz's sacrifice and the fws story is reaching so deeply into the corners of Oz mass consciousness. I think he is inspiring a lot of people (myself included) and fws (through you guys) are also contributing hugely to waking pu a sleeping giant within our society.
(an email to fws)
On behalf of Global Alliance for Africa, and the Vijana Center, I would like to express our deepest sympathies and condolences to everyone at foodwatershelter and especially to Beck and Darren's family.
We only knew Darren for a short time, while he worked in Tanzania, but it was easy to see he was a great man. His loss will be greatly felt by the Arusha community and the world.
Sam Dwyer, Global Alliance Africa
(an email to fws)
Pole sana ["very sorry" in Kiswahili].
I write to pass on my sincerest regret and sympathies to you at the passing of your friend and volunteer Darren, especially to Beck and Darren's family.
Earlier this year, Brenton Carey and I brought a group to Kesho Leo and were fortunate enough to meet Darren and hear him speak with passion and knowledge about the work FWS are doing. It was a wonderful experience for us all to meet such a dedicated and inspirational man like Darren. It truly was a privilege.
The group of 15 Aussies who went over in January have all asked me to pass on our coundolences and to let you and your community of GREAT people know that we are thinking of you. Somethign that the group reflected on about Darren was the way he worked with the Tanzanian builders and developed a genuine relationship with them. From our limited time at Kesho Leo, we could tell you that fws' model of "working with" and empowering the local community was really evident in the way that Darren operated. It is a very rare thing to see such relationships being formed, Darren's example and memory is surely a great gift and inspiration for your group.
"The Kesho Leo project will be completed in honour of Darren."
Finally, I was asked to convey the enormous admiration we have for the work that fws is carrying out in Arusha. Having spent 6 months at Edmund Rice, Sinon, I realize the desperate need for the services and presence you are setting up. I also understand the difficulites one can face in a marginalised community like Engo -Sheraton-Sinon area. We as a similarly concerned group of Australians, with a passion for Tanzania, were pleased to see that in this time of deep sadness for your community, you are still continuing your great work in honour of Darren. Congratulations on this.
Once again, we express our deepest condolences and thoughts for your community.
Peace and all good things,
Hi Beck
i've heard your storie and wish you all the best and hope you go back to tanzania.
Love u beck!!!!!!!!!!
Your story is amazing and inspiring.
Rebecka, thankyou for sharing your story with the world. Please carry on the amazing work you are doing and accept my sympathy for your loss.
Emily
Rebecka, you are an unbelievbly inspirational woman. Thank you for sharing your story. The world is a lesser place for having lost a man like Darren.
I watched Australian story yesterday (4th October 2008) and I was deeply moved by it. Our world has lost a wonderful human being,Darren Stratti.Dear Bek,you are one amazing lady and a true inspiration, you have followed your dreams and those dreams have touched the lives of those that need it the most. To the Stratti brothers, son's and friends, how awesome are your deeds finishing off the good work that both Bek and Darren started. Youre courage and strength is a huge witness to this chaotic world. My prayers are with you all.
Rebecka,
Pole Sana, I was in Tanzania at the same time of Darrens death. I was volunteering in an orphanage in Moshi. Your story is inspirational. I understand your need to go back to Tanzania and I applaud Darrens brothers for continuing the work. I have also had teh stong urge to go back to Tanzania since returning to Aurstalia, I hope that in the near future you will be looking for teachers to volunteer at the project!
Hi!
My friend and I have been learning about your story in school and we have found it very touching and motivating!
Your story is incredible and may Darren rest in peace!
You are a strong woman, keep up the good work.
Jemma Rice use to attend our school, St Vincents College which made your story very special to us.
Keep saving the children's lives
We will always remember your story
Dear Rebeca, I woud like to thank you for this blog site,as you know I'm away from Home in a far of country and to-day is Darrens birthday. It's consoling to read the testermonals of so many of Darren friends, thank you and to all Darrens friends.Sam Stratti.
Hi Bec, you Darren and the rest of the fws crew are very much in my thoughts. As Christmas approaches I remember Christmas Day last year when we shared a fabulous meal and a great game of cricket - Aussies v Rest of the World - until the heavens opened. We continued celebrating and it was such a good day. I miss Sinon village but have some fabulous memories.
Love Debbie (NZ)
Thank-you Darren for all that you have done to help people and make the world a better place. You are both an inspiration and a blessing. I admire you and am humbled by the greatness of your spirit.
For your beautiful wife Rebecka, and your family:
I am deeply sorry for your loss and pray that all the love in the universe surrounds and keeps you. Your loss, it is incomprehensible, and please know people all around the world will never forget Darren and the beautiful gifts he has given. People he has never met, like me, admire him and grieve for you.
A poem for Darren and Beck.
To give is what’s important: to share, to laugh, to play,
This life is but a journey, this world a passage way.
Some burn a little brighter;
They lead where we should go,
Some live a little larger,
Real truth inside, they know.
I am sorry for your loss Beck,
It hurts when left behind.
But he will never leave you,
His face in stars you’ll find.
You’ll see him in the sunrise, feel him in the breeze.
Hear him in the bird song, the rain and raging seas.
Death is but a doorway,
We one day all walk through.
Everything’s connected; especially him and you.
I wish I could find the magic, and turn time back around.
To bring you back your loved one, but, no such magic can be found.
But time itself cannot contain the feelings that you share.
Close your eyes, reach out your arms, you’ll find him waiting there.
May nature be your scrap book, and music house memories,
And the warmth of love embrace you, as love knows no boundaries.
with much love, a friend of a friend.
Thinking of our friend Daz on his 1 year anniversary.
Daz left me one of the most important lessons in my life which is to 'lead with your heart'
Something he never said
Something he did
JoeMo
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